having proposed, turns out there’s actually this follow-through thing called a wedding. as the asker of the original question, it seems almost odd to do something else: thats where the life changing moment is, not just in the answer but in the decisions leading up to that moment. of course – and this is my interpretation – a wedding isn’t about you two, it’s about contextualising that within a community, making the announcement and saying this is (all/) us, from hereon in.
and so, finally, a date has been settled, venues arranged, lists made. more importantly: the first true joint project, the invites! totally happy about how they came out, and so much the better for the joint creative effort and them coming from our own hands[1][2].